The Importance of One-on-One in Large Families (advice needed!)

Being raised in a small family, one-on-one time with my parents wasn’t something I valued.  My brother is 10 years older than me, so by the time I was old enough to care, he was almost an adult and I felt like an only child.

Now that I have a large family, I recognize the value of one-on-one time with each child.  The dynamics of a large family are different.  There are more fights between siblings, differing personalities, increased financial demands, lack of personal space, and more time is required for the never-ending cleaning and laundry.  Especially for a large homeschooling family, the lack of personal space can feel greater because you’re always together.  In the midst of the choas it’s easy to forget about providing one-on-one time with each child.  

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Beach day

Outward appearance can be deceiving.

Yesterday we skipped church (shame on us) to go to the beach.  Everyone was excited because it was a beautiful, sunny, breezy, 80-degree weather type of day. Excitement increased seeing the crystal blue water as we drove over the bridge onto the island.  Once we parked and unloaded we headed onto the sand and thankfully our favorite spot under the trees was still available (something we doubted since it’s spring break season right now).  After setting up chairs and lathering sunscreen it was time to head to the water for baby C’s first experience.

Then the complaining started, and for partly valid reasons.  YUCK!  Seaweed everywhere, merky water, and half eaten fish? Where were we? This was not the pristine beautiful water we saw from on top of the bridge!

This experience reminded me of how people see us.  

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